Bar Mitzvah / Bat Mitzvah / Confirmation

 
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           I hate to be the one to break the news to the rest of the Goys out there, but Moses did not have a Bar Mitzvah. Neither did any of the patriarchs or prophets. Neither did Jesus. Neither did anyone else until about the 14th century, when the ceremony was devised.

           The Bar Mitzvah ("Son of the Law") is a celebration of a young man's coming of age according to Jewish law - the taking on himself of the responsibility for his own actions in regards to his duty to God. Normally this is when a boy reaches the age of thirteen, but any man - born or converted Jewish - can have a Bar Mitzvah at any time in his life. If you recall the episode of 'Touched by an Angel' with Kirk Douglas, his character, an old men, had a second Bar Mitzvah alongside his grandson, who was celebrating his first Bar Mitzvah.

           It also marks the fact that the young man has been sufficiently trained in the Torah and Talmud so as to understand the Law and the covenants, and it marks the time in life he is able to begin wearing the Tallit and Teflin - it is a great moment in a young boy's life when he first dons these, and I have been told that often a father's or grandfather's Tallit and Teflin are offered for the boy to wear - marking the handing down of the Law and the centuries of tradition to the next generation.

          Most Bar Mitzvah ceremonies contain five elements:

           1. The Bar Mitzvah ("Son of the Law") is called up to recite the blessings chanted over the Torah, before and after the reading. He often reads or chants the final verses of the portion of the Torah read that week.

           2. The Bar Mitzvah reads or chants a selected portion of the Prophetical books ("the Prophets", as we Christians call it) with the appropriate preceding and concluding benedictions.

           3. A parental blessing is pronounced: "Blessed is the One who has freed me from responsibility for this child's conduct."

           4. The Bar Mitzvah delivers an interpretive speech, usually on the Torah reading for the day.

           5. The Bar Mitzvah feast celebrating the event.

          Most Bar Mitzvahs are held in conjunction with Sabbath services, but they can be held on any occasion when the Torah is read.

          A rabbi once outlined in a class I attended three values celebrated: One, the young man has achieved an educational level in which he has learned enough from the Torah to publicly share it with others. Second, an inter-generational connection has been established by following in the path of his father and grandfathers. And Third, he has been challenged - and has accepted the challenge - to take a personal, responsible stand to live according to the religious and moral standards of the Law of Moses.

            Although there is historical evidence that ceremonies marking a young woman's coming of age existed  in medieval Germany, the formal ceremony known as Bat Mitzvah came about in the 1920's in the United States. Celebrated mostly by Reform and Conservative Jews, it holds an equivalency to the Bar Mitzvah ceremony.

           The Confirmation ceremony was developed mainly by the Reform movement in 19th Century Germany to replace the Bar Mitzvah ceremony and is normally held on or about a boy's sixteenth birthday. In addition to Torah and Talmud, a young man also studies contemporary Jewish ethics, modern Jewish problems, and the nature of the contemporary Jewish community.